Friday, December 09, 2005

A big stressful mess

Part of this problem that I have somehow gotten stuck
I think probably started this past spring, when I
filled out my paperwork for financial aid for school
and mailed them copies of my state and federal tax
forms. They must have lost the copy of my federal tax
forms, which really sucks for me. In October the
financial aid office in Augusta sent me a letter
notifying me that they needed my federal tax forms.

I sent in another copy of my tax forms, but by then
it was too late to get granted financial aid, since
the semester had obviously already commenced by that
time. Later, they proceeded to send me a letter saying
that I owed the full amount of tuition. Mind you, this
was around the same time that I started working at my
internship placement agency. That meant that by then,
I went from working full time, to only part time in
order to have time during the week to get hours in for
my internship, which has only been twelve hours a week
so far, because of the hours for the day program that
I work for. My classes for this semester are only two
days a week, on Thursdays and Fridays, right during
the time that the day program at my internship is
going on.

On top of this, as a result of being able to work
only part time, I have had less money to go towards
paying bills and often end up with less than ten
dollars in my checking account by the end of the
week, before getting paid again the next Thursday.
It's hard enough trying to pay bills on less than
eight dollars an hour while working full time, but
it's even worse trying to pay those same bills with
10-25 hours less of pay.

Part of the situation with the lack of finances is
due to going to England for the World Gathering of
Young Friends (an international Quaker conference).
Before leaving, I spent about six hundred dollars
just on traveller's cheques, and it still didn't
end up being enough, no thanks to the harsh
exchange rate. Damn, England is an expensive
country to travel to, but before going, I didn't
realize it was quite that pricey.
Now I'm dirt poor, trying to pay my bills on time,
and not go crazy with the whole Christmas season.
I can't stand it when holidays get so secular,
like Christmas has slowly become over the past
century.
Now I'm suffering from major burnout as a result
of my internship; major stress from work, because
no matter how many hours I work, I'm still not
caught up in life; and financial drain to my
checking account, with my last expense of the
week usually being gas for my car.
This is why I'm glad that I was buying extra
non-perishables over the summer, despite the
fact that my roommates have been teasing me about
it, because otherwise I would practically be
going hungry every week because of not being
able to afford to buy food.

So that's a synopsis of the fall semester for me.

1 comment:

Anna Dunford said...

For what it is worth know that you are being held in the light.

Times like this make us or break us. It is knowing to say 'ok god/world/whatever - what do I do now? What am I supposed to learn from this? I need help - where do I ask for it?' Asking god is all very well but sometimes a more direct approach to someone physically within your realm of being is what is also needed! Someone with access to an overseers fund, a trust for those in financial need, a healthier bank account than yours with some cash to lend...

Asking for help is not easy, especially if you have grown up feeling that you have to survive on your own two feet and cope somehow. It is hard to put aside those feelings of inadequacy and failure that can creep up at times like this and admit to the world that you need help. 'Ask and it shall be granted, seek and ye may find' is one of the few biblical texts I can quote but I've learned (the hard way!) that it is one worth taking at face value - if you don't ask, you don't get!

One day the experience you are having now will help you, or help you help someone else. Unless you let it be, it won't be wasted. Remember what it feels like now - life has a habit of throwing us back into the same predicament again and again if we don't learn and move on. Remembering is part of the learning as it isn't half an incentive to try to do it differently next time around! (oh and don't forget to restock the cupboards once the money comes back in!!!)

in the light
Anna